When Authenticity & Attachment can coexist
Approaching our children in a manner that allows space for their needs of authenticity & attachment to be met is the greatest gift we can provide them with in their childhood years.
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Hi Sterna! Thank you so much for this course. My husband and I have a question: what do we accomplish by collaborating with our child? if you can give some examples of when collaboration would come into play and what that conversation of trying to collaborate would look like, that would be great!!
Thank you so much!!
Hi Rochel,
I love that you are watching this course together. When we collaborate with our child, we face less conflicts. We consider our needs and also our child’s and find ways to move forward. Our child feels more heard and we also feel better as parents because we aren’t ignoring how we feel about situations – there’s less resentment towards our kids. I would love to provide you with examples and I also want them to be age appropriate for what you may be facing. Can I ask you the age(s) of your kid(s) please so I can give helpful examples?
thanks for the quick reply!
my daughter is almost 3 and is extremely talkative and very emotionally aware (to give you some more insight). on a side note, I’m also wondering how to voice my needs to my child in an age appropriate way especially if im feeling frustrated in the moment and i feel like i may lose it. (im sure i need to watch the triggers and boundaries course but we are watching everything in order for now. i dont want her to feel responsible for how im feeling, and not sure how to do that effectively!
It can sound like this: “Oh my! I feel very overwhelmed right now. My body doesn’t feel good. I need to take a little pause. This has nothing to do with you, it’s something I am feeling in my body. I’ll continue this conversation as soon as I feel better.” you can share if you are going to take deep breaths or put water on your face to ground yourself: “I’m going to put water on my face/ take deep breaths/ drink some water/ open the door for some fresh air…to help myself now.” this models to our child what we do to help our own self and as they mature and with time they will know what self regulation looks like 🙂 I do speak more on this as you navigate your way into the next courses.