When our child is experiencing a tantrum, there’s so many aspects that we need to think over. What do we do on the moment if they hit or throw something which hurts someone? What do we do if they tell us to go away? What do we do if they say unacceptable words? What if we react in ways we wish we didn’t?Let’s discuss everything that has to do with tantrums.
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And yet again you’ve done it Sterna! You’ve opened up my mind to a completely new way of thinking; I’ve never heard of such stuff in connection to tantrums and it makes so much sense in so many situations that I’ve been seen and been near throughout my life. It’s way too much processing that my mind is going through so I can’t touch on anything specific but wow, this is gold. I’m entirely mind blown here – I don’t know what to even think or process first.
Esther, your kind words mean so much to me. Thank you for sharing this with me & I’m humbled to be part of your journey.
Thank you Sterna! Your content has been enlightening and just feels right. I’m so grateful <3
I'm wondering how to navigate holding space for my toddler having a tantrum in front of other people (grandparents, etc.) who would instinctively want to try and fix it? Should I move my child and myself somewhere private if available? Or discuss this strategy with family beforehand? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Hi Nicole,
So happy to hear that you resonate with what I am sharing here.
I love your question. Sometimes it can be very hard for the older generation not to step in and try to make our child happy.
I think you can try explaining this approach to them, see their reaction, and see the next time a tantrum happens if they can follow through by not trying to “fix” the situation. The tricky part is to believe what they show you they can do! Sometimes what happens is that it’s hard for US to face the reality that the adults around us aren’t going to change their ways. If they show you that it’s too hard for them, I would definitely think that it would be better to excuse yourself with your child in a quiet private space until your child’s emotions pass without others trying to intervene. Also sometimes we might not have a private space to go to and so we can just tell others around us, “I got this! Thank you” & proceed to be with our child.
Hope this answers your question.